Seeking External Validation is a Recipe For Disaster

I don’t know who first said this, or where I heard it, but it is truly a freeing concept when we embody it and take it to heart.

Seeking external validation is always going to lead to some degree of dissatisfaction, and feelings of unworthiness.

Today's Monday Motivation Minute:

You can be the juices peach in the bunch, and someone doesn’t like peaches. In today’s social media world, they are going to tell you that.

So, if you are seeking the approval or recognition from others to validate your choice es, your worth or your abilities, you miss the potential that you have to grow and empower yourself to be and achieve the best that you can.

Validate yourself, your worthiness and abilities each day with some mirror work. Look yourself in the mirror and state - I am bold, I am sassy, I am worthy, I am the right person to achieve all that I desire and assist my tribe along the way....

If One Can Be Successful, Do All Have Equal Opportunity?

A millennial walks into a bar...

Recently, while my husband and I were having a casual drink and conversation about the 26.7% increase in 20-30 year olds visiting mental health facilities with a fear of doing self inflicted harm, I was interrupted by a millennial who wanted to talk about it.

We discussed the disillusionment of his generation, the hopelessness, and the feeling that they did what they were told to do; went to college, racked up $100k in college debt and now have nowhere to turn for jobs; the housing market is prohibitive and they feel they have been shut out of upwardly mobile possibility.

We also talk about capitalism, mentors, and the danger in resigning oneself that THIS is their lot in life.

I believe if any one person can do it, we all have the possibility of doing it. From Oprah Winfrey, to Sara Blakely (Spanx) to JK Rowling and Mike Johnston (former Simon Says Drummer, turned YouTube...

You Have Three People With You in Your Network Marketing Business

When you launch a network marketing business, you bring 3 of yourself into the business - the past you; the current you; and the future you.

The good news is the future you can be anyone you want, if you create you!

The bad news is, your past you is running the show, now and into the future if you aren’t careful. Here’s how to shift your thoughts and actions and show up as who you need to be to get where you want to go.

Here’s what’s up with you, you’ve launched your network marketing business, and you’re so excited. You can’t wait to drive the big fancy car, live in the big exciting home. Before that even, you’re excited about having money to pay for kids braces, gymnastics and karate and not have to ask permission to do certain things and take money out of the family budget.

The problem is, now that you’ve launched the business,...

How Many Network Marketers Are Blowing It During Covid19

Network Marketing is a fabulous opportunity when done right, and a nightmare on steroids when done wrong.

Here are a few ways network marketers are blowing it for themselves and the profession of Network Marketing by what they say, how they act, and show up on Social Media.

And, to be sure, the FTC is not taking income or health claims made lightly. The smack down is happening.

Crisis brings out the best and the worst. 600% surge in Google Search on most keywords having to do with work at home. Home business, etc.

I will link to several articles in the show notes, so check them out, including 10 companies who have already had their hands slapped by the FTC.

So what’s the problem?

The problem is not the company itself, in most cases. It’s typically a small group of over zealous company reps who embellish stories and make claims that are illegal per the FTC and FDA,...

Does Success Come From Self Confidence?

Most people think that success comes from having self confidence.

But, it’s a funny thing. In most interviews I listen to of successful entrepreneurs, most say the same thing - they struggled terribly with lack of self confidence.

You may know exactly what I am talking about.

I think back on my own journey and struggles with not feeling good enough.

It’s funny though. I have always spoken the words - I am self confident.

Looking back, I’m not sure that this was true. I just used different words. Because I know for sure that “self worth” or being good enough was an ongoing struggle.

I had a lot of “mean girl” issues from 4th grade to 6th grade. A circle of 4 of us and one or two of us - mostly me and one other girl - where always the target of mainly the ring leader, and her side kick.

In 7th grade, when I moved on to Junior High School, I bolted from that group and made...

Are We Too Goal Obsessed, Losing Sight of What Matters?

I'm thrilled to share my Mastermind and Transformation Decoded partners, Isabel Banerjee and Lee Woodward with you, today, as we discuss Achievement Vs Fulfillment.

We are about 17 episodes into a project, Transformation Decoded, that we are working on. Our mastermind meets for an hour to 90 minutes each monday morning and we "Get Stuff Done!"

Here are our thoughts on Achievement Vs Fulfillment:

Achievement Vs Fulfillment, what roles do each of these play in our lives and businesses, and what REALLY matters?

Jackie Ulmer shares - as a 3 on the Enneagram, “achievement” is something I know well. We are known as achievers and performers and life is all about accomplishing, Also, as a 26 year Network Marketing veteran, I have lived most of my life in a profession that is always about achieving the next goal.

Make a rank advancement and one is immediately looking toward what...

Success Leaves Clues - Check Your Calendar

We don’t get our goals; we get our habits! What’s on the Calendar gets done; what isn’t doesn’t always!

What are your Priorities for this year? What things need to be Scheduled in that are non negotiable? What day/time will I block weekly for planning?

Business, Life, Self Care - all of this work together to make you a Peak Performance Entrepreneur!

Watch the video to see how I use a standard calendar to plan my social media content, as well as meal planning, fitness and workouts, and then my regular Day timer calendar.

I also use my google calendar for pop up reminders.

Using this allows you to repurpose your content and have a simple system for success in your business and your life.

Themes, and content is all plotted in and as long as the content is evergreen, and not dated, it can be used over and over.

What are you reading? Share it and create content around it.

Do you have a question for...

Who Is Most Important in Your Network Marketing Business

3 Most important people in your network marketing business. I’m filming this during the COVID-19 pandemic, quarantined at home. For a lot of people, business has come to a standstill. There’s fear, anxiety and questioning about what’s going to come next.

First, calm down as much as you can, and know that at some point we will return to normal life. Any time there’s an economic downturn or rough situations, be aware of falling into the trap of thinking about these 2 types of people, too much.

Real estate, has suffered some challenges now, as people are holding off.

But, home business searches are trending up 600% in Google Search.

We tend to operate in the myth that EVERYBODY is or isn't doing something. Everybody is pinching pennies. Everybody is waiting to spend money.

Everybody is out of work. Everybody is waiting on the stimulus check and...

Resistance Leads to Unhappiness

Using the CTFAR Practice for Success!

We’ll cover:

How to Manage Your Thoughts

How to Manage Your Feelings

How to Drive Your Actions

How to Create the Results You REALLY Want

How to Release the Past

Life is full of circumstances. Situations. Things that happen. We don’t always control these, but we do control our reactions and how we hold on to them. Learn how to navigate any situation to succeed.

Circumstances

Life is full of circumstances. Situations. Things that happen. It all starts here.

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Circumstance - it’s just a fact. It is not the same as a thought. Its just is. We don’t control those. Our past is all about circumstances. More later.

People create circumstances

Life events

Elections

Disasters

Tragedy

Neutral, until we have a thought about it.

The sky is blue today. It’s 10:00am. This person said this… When I was 15, this...

Don't Let Fear Derail You

Fear is either a story from the past or something that has not happened, and probably won’t, projected into the future. Mindset mastery is the key to success in Network Marketing.

Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather action in spite of fear.

A daily thought download, and then looking at, analyzing and getting clear on what the absolute worst thing is that could happen. Could you survive it?

We all have fears. So what? Let’s kick them to the curb...

Grab a notebook and pen and do some work now on your fears

My greatest fears:

Are these real and happening now?

Why and how much longer will I allow them to control my present and future?

My greatest failures:

What lessons came from them?

Are these real and happening now?

Why and how much longer will I allow them to control my present and future?

Do you have a question for me? DM me on Instagram @jackieulmer

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